A Guide On A Brother’s Best Man Speech:
Congratulations! You are the brother of the groom, and like a no brainer you are the best man, which means that you will be giving the best man speech (Why else would you be reading this guide, right?). Probably by now, you must be searching “how to make a best man speech on your brother’s wedding without making fun of yourself and embarrassing your brother”. Good news is, you are not the only one! Almost everyone in this position feels confused and looks for some examples and help online. That is the reason why we created this guide so you can know all about the brother best man speech.
The thought of giving a speech in a place full of family, friends, relatives, and people you don’t know is always terrifying especially when you know that in those short moments you will have to take the center stage and become the main focus of the whole wedding.
Don’t worry! We got your back. We will walk you through step by step on how to give the best possible best man speech in your brother’s wedding, starting from how to make an outline for the speech, finding the right opening, ideas and inspirations, what to joke about , what to say and what you should avoid, and how to make your best man speech interesting and memorable.
Let’s clear this out from the start, you just don’t walk into the wedding expecting that you will give the speech straight out of your mind without any preparation and planning, you have to be prepared a long time before it.
“Before anything else, preparation is the key to success.” – Alexander Graham Bell
So let’s get you ready and make your brother proud of you, shall we?
Planning Your Best Man Speech:
Start planning ahead of time. Don’t leave it onto the last few days before the wedding. Start by planning ahead and we recommend you do so at least 1 to 2 months before the wedding. The longer the better. This will give you enough time to get inspiration, good ideas, and most importantly you’ll get enough time to practice the best man speech and memorize it. Although if you are late, and don’t have enough time in that case just follow this article and look at the examples we have given, and try to keep your speech as simple as possible.
Brainstorming Ideas For The Speech:
Brainstorming is the start of a good plan. Just write down, in any order, what comes to your mind form stories with your brother that happened in the past, what makes you think that your brother is a good man, why do you think that his bride is the perfect match for him, quotes you used to hear or read together, inner jokes that no one knows but you and him, and funny situations that you were involved in together.
Tip: You may include your parents in those stories as well, it will make them feel connected with you both in the speech and will make them feel good.
Also, you should try to gather all info about your brother and his bride that you may not know yet, like how they met each other for the first time, when was the first time you got to knew they were together, when and where did your brother propose her and so on.
You don’t have to put anything you brainstorm in the final draft. These are just ideas and points that you can pick from and use in your speech where you feel they are necessary.
Writing down your memories, the info you gathered and some creative ideas of yours are the easy part, the real challenge here is to put them all together and come up with a complete best man speech. That is why you need an outline for your best man speech (brother).
The next step is to create an outline and organize all the information that you have brainstormed.
Creating An Outline For Your Best Man Speech:
Outline of the best man speech on your brother’s wedding should look something like this;
- Opening Line
- Some past stories and memories
- Expressing your feelings for your brother
- Praising the bride
- Giving advice to the couple (Optional)
- Congratulating them and wishing them good luck
This is a basic outline to give you an idea about how your speech should look like. You can adjust, add or remove any of the topics, that we listed, according to your needs.
Now we will discuss each of the topic listed above in detail and give you some examples of what you could mention in each topic.
The Opening Line Of Your Best Man Speech At Your Brother’s Wedding:
The best man speech starts with an opening line. This is the most important part of your speech, as it will either get the guests attention or they will just continue to talk amongst themselves and won’t be attentive. If you want to give a speech that would make people stop whatever they are doing and listen to you, you got to have an awesome opening line. This would decide if your best man speech is just another average speech or something that people will remember and talk about.
If you want, you can go for a traditional opening line. Which basically is that you start off by introducing yourself, then thank everyone for coming and congratulate the bride and groom. But we don’t recommend that!
We will try to make your speech attention-grabbing one for the guests, and our best bet here is humor.
Humor breaks the ice with the guests and makes your speech much more enjoyable to listen. An important thing to keep in mind here is, we want to keep the humor light and within boundaries. This would make your speech much more enjoyable and funny, but at the same time, it will be appropriate for all type of guests that are present at the wedding.
For example, you might start off your speech with:
(Pull out a piece of paper from your pocket and act like you are reading from it)
“[Name of bride] you are so lucky to have a man like [name of the groom/Your brother]. He is so charming, so incredibly handsome, you just can’t find a man like him and umm…..[Name of groom] I can’t read your handwriting here.”
Then you start your actual speech after the guests stop laughing.
Another example of an opening line of your brother’s best man speech:
“My name is [Your Name]. As the best man here today I have to tell you the truth about [name of the groom/Your Brother]. He is the most handsome, gentle and the smartest man I have ever met in my life – unfortunately, I’m just kidding. However, he has many other good qualities that brought us all here today, especially his marriage to the beautiful [Name of bride]”
These are just some examples, if you like any of these, you can use that and modify it according to your needs. However, if you don’t like any of these opening lines, you can brainstorm some ideas of your own but the main point is to have something that is humorous and interesting.
After getting that attention we needed from the guests, start off by thanking them for coming, also you should thank other speakers who gave a speech before you, and finally, congratulate the newlyweds.
Storytelling And Getting Sentimental:
At this part, you could ditch the humor away, and start to express your feeling to your brother and the newest member in the family which of course is the bride. You could say whatever you want in this section like how much you love both of them, how proud you are to see your brother getting married, how he made your life full of support and happiness because he always had your back, really the list here is endless.
Since we are here to help you with this speech, we will give you some ideas and best sayings which you can use in your brother best man speech.
You could start with a quote like:
“There is no love like the love for a brother and there is no love like the love from a brother.” – Astrid Alauda
Then you need to express your feelings to your brother as much as you can, don’t feel embarrassed or shy, just forget there’s anyone else in the room, and say whatever you truly feel.
”Words can’t express how much I truly love you, you are not just my brother you are my best friend, my backbone, my tutor, you have our father’s strength and our mother’s kindness, I wouldn’t be the man I’m today without you and what you have taught me all those years. When I’m in trouble the first person that comes to my mind is you. I say it now, hear it well, because I will never say it ever again. From the button of my heart, you are my everything!”
After expressing those beautiful feelings, maybe you or your brother would be in tears. So this is the perfect time to tell a good story that happened with both of you. We recommend something that’s both funny and interesting at the same time.
So from the brainstorming, you did earlier, gather all the stories you could remember and filter them. Have some audience from your family or close friends and let them help you decide which story to mention in the best man speech on your brother’s wedding.
As an example, you could tell a story when you both had a fight on something silly when you were young, and what learned from it. You could also tell a story about how bad he was at talking to girls when he was young etc. You could even mention how you guys played a sport together, and that you were always better than him.
The idea here is to roast him just a little for fun, but you have to make sure it’s in the limits. There are some rules you have to consider when roasting your brother in a best man speech. We’ll cover them later in the “Things to avoid” section of this guide.
Praising the bride:
After getting the fun of roasting your brother on his wedding, you have to calm things down a little. A good way to do that is by praising the bride and welcoming her to the family.
You can tell her how beautiful she is looking today, and what it means to have a new sister in the family. You can also mention how she changed your brother to become a better man than he already was, or how kind and caring person she is.
For example, you could say the following:
“[Name of the bride] since the day I met you, I felt that you are the one for [name of the groom/Your brother]. You truly got out the best in him, I can see how much he loves you in his eyes, he became the happiest man alive and that is showing in his everyday life, thanks to you. You are stunningly beautiful, kind and caring, and I’m grateful that we have you in our family now.”
Giving Advice To The Couple:
This part is optional, and its really up to you if you want to give the couple advice. If you decide to do it, then keep reading or you can skip to the next section.
This part is about offering advice to the newly wedded couple about what a great, lasting relationship should have.
Here you could be funny and sarcastic or you could be serious while giving them advice.
You could give the bride and groom some funny advice like:
“To my brother, I will give you this advice to use in your coming life with [Name of bride], please stop peeing on the toilet seat.”
Or keep it traditional like:
“I want to give this advice to both of you [Name of the groom/ Your brother] and [Name of bride] I want you to always take care of each other, help each other, be always there for each other, and most importantly keep loving each other more and more each day. You both deserve the best in this world. I love you.”
Congratulating And Wishing Them Good Luck:
After showing love to your brother and his bride, it’s time to congratulate them. Wish them the best in their coming life.
You have to be sentimental and honest in this part, look them in the eyes and tell them something like:
“[Name of groom] [Name of bride] I stand here today wishing you from the deep of my heart joy, love, and happiness on your wedding day and as you begin your new life together, congratulations and may your love last forever.”
“The two of you literally shine with the love you share for each other. God made you both for each other, congratulation and I wish you the best in your coming life together.”
“Today, we add one more member to our family welcome [Name of bride]. Best wishes to you both”
“Congratulations [Name of bride] and [Name of groom] I’m so happy to celebrate this day with you both, Wishing you a long, happy and fun filled future together.”
Wrapping Up And Making A Toast:
It’s time to thank all the guests for listening to your speech and being a great audience. You could end your best man speech by one of the following examples:
“Thank you all for listening to me this far. I’m sure that by now you all will be glad to hear that I’m almost done but I’m not……. Just kidding. I won’t keep you any longer. Ladies and gentlemen, please raise your glasses to MR and MRS [Name].”
“Ladies and gentlemen, thank you so much for being such wonderful guests, and let’s stand up and raise our glasses for [Name of bride] and [Name of groom]”
“Thank you all so much for being here and I’d like you all to join me in wishing them all the happiness in the world to the bride and groom. Raise your glasses to [Name of bride] [Name of groom].”
And as a final inspiration, we will give you a complete example of a brother’s best man speech. (Based on this guides mentioned examples)
A Best Man Speech For Your Brother’s Wedding:
“Hello everyone my name is Billy. As the best man here today I have to tell you the truth about my brother James. He is the most handsome, gentle and the smartest man I ever met – unfortunately I’m just kidding. However, he has many other good qualities that brought us all here today especially his marriage to the beautiful Margret.
There is a great saying which perfectly sums up my relationship with my brother: “There is no love like the love for a brother and there is no love like the love from a brother.”
Words can’t express how much I truly love you James. You are not just my brother you are my best friend, my backbone, my tutor, you have our father’s strength and our mother’s kindness. I wouldn’t be the man I am today without you and what you have taught me all those years. When I’m in trouble or need help, the first person that comes to my mind is you. I say it now, hear it well because I will never say it ever again. From the button of my heart you are my everything.
I remember when James first introduced me to Margret. I was stunned by how beautiful she is. Infact I kept on insisting for a month that you have to fix a date for me with any one of her gorgeous friends I saw that day. They are the bridesmaids today by the way, But of course James refused. He was afraid because I’m more handsome and funnier than him. I would have taken all the attention from him.
Margret since the day I met you, I felt that you are the one for James. You truly got out the best in him. I can see how much he loves you in his eyes. He became the happiest man alive and that is showing in his everyday life, because of you. You are stunningly beautiful, kind and caring. I’m grateful that we have you in our family now.
I want to give this advice to both of you, James and Margret. I want you to always take care of each other, help each other, be always there for each other, and most importantly keep loving each other more and more each day. As you both deserve the best in this world. I love you.
Ladies and gentlemen, thank you so much for being such wonderful guests, and let’s stand up and raise our glasses for the Newlyweds James and Margret.”
Tips For Brother’s Best Man Speech:
- Prepare well before the wedding day.
- Stay as calm and confident as you can.
- Just breath, don’t hold it.
- Put a lot of effort in your opening line. Make it as good as possible.
- Practice in front of a small audience. Practice makes a man perfect.
- Use cue cards, a paper or a tablet to read from, if you’re feeling nervous or can’t remember the speech well.
- Don’t just read from the paper. You have to look at the audience and make eye contact.
- Speak slowly and when the audience laughs wait until they finish laughing.
- Make eye contact with your brother and his bride when you are talking about them.
- Try to make the speech between 5 to 8 minutes. Avoid making it too long as it would make it boring for the guests.
- Lightly roast your brother but don’t overdo it.
- Always try to compliment the bride in a nice way, and state how beautiful she is.
- Our last tip for you is to enjoy it. Giving a best man speech on your brother’s wedding (or even on a friend’s wedding) is one of the most remarkable moments in one’s life. It is a great honor, and a happy memory. Don’t overthink it just enjoy it.
What To Avoid When Giving A Best Man Speech On Your Brother’s Wedding:
- Don’t talk too much about yourself. Your brother and his wife should be the main focus.
- Don’t mention any ex’s stories, past marriage, any negative downfalls in your brother’s past life.
- Don’t overuse jokes that no one understands except for you and your brother, one is enough.
- Never make fun or roast the bride, keep it to your brother only and within limits.
- Don’t make the whole speech funny, the love and sentimental message in your speech are equally important.
- Never use any inappropriate words as your audience might include children and elders.
- Don’t disrespect anyone.
- Avoid copying and pasting a best man speech from the internet. We are here to just help you create one and give you inspiration and ideas. You should try to come up with your own ideas and stories, and according to your needs and requirements, and make your own original best man speech.
Finally, we hope that you got the complete idea of how to create the best man speech for your brother, from scratch. Please pay attention to each tiny details as it will have an impact on the whole speech meaning and message. Hopefully this guide would have given you some ideas and inspiration. Now its time for you to start working on your own best man speech for your brother’s wedding, which is according to your own needs and requirements. Good luck!
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